The funny thing about that Len is that when it first happened, I kept hearing what a great guy I was from doctors, nurses, friends, and strangers, and I could not figure it out??? Then someone told me that around 85% of all wives and husbands leave their spouse when this happens. It never crossed my mind, so I was seriously confused. When it first happened, my wife spoke with me and said she wanted me to leave. She said she wanted me to have a better life than what was going to happen. So I told her, ok, let's have this discussion. I asked her if she was ready? She said yes. I said ok, here it is. The answer is NO! DONT EVER BRING IT UP AGAIN! Not even a choice for me. And yes it can be very hard. And I do expect that I may go bankrupt one day from this. I have even been told to divorce her on paper to avoid bankruptcy. I rather be broke. I will not do it. Luckily, I work in a hospital ( no I am not a doctor ) however I am very well versed on medicine, wound care, physical therapy, etc., because I taught myself when it happened. Plus I have been very lucky that some doctors have done me some favors. Tell your wife thanks for the compliment. Some people will never get to know what it really means to love someone, and more importantly, trust someone completely with their life. Both me and my wife have that trust basically since we met. I feel sorry for those that don't have that.
Jeff